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“He’s not perfect. You aren’t either, and the two of you will never be perfect. But if he can make you laugh at least once, causes you to think twice, and if he admits to being human and making mistakes, hold onto him and give him the most you can. He isn’t going to quote poetry, he’s not thinking about you every moment, but he will give you a part of him that he knows you could break. Don’t hurt him, don’t change him, and don’t expect for more than he can give. Don’t analyze. Smile when he makes you happy, yell when he makes you mad, and miss him when he’s not there. Love hard when there is love to be had. Because perfect guys don’t exist, but there’s always one guy that is perfect for you.” – Bob Marley

I started working on another post today about reaching your goals and putting yourself on blast, but this Bob Marley quote keeps calling me.

I’ve been thinking a lot about falling in love lately.

I’ve only been in love once in my 32 years, and while I’ve been totally infatuated and head-over-heels about certain men, I’ve only really loved my son’s father.

I met him 10 years ago, and in the span of a decade we’ve been on one hell of a ride. From the early days when we created a world so small only the two of us could fit, to holding him down through a prison bid, and now, though we barely speak (but he’s always on my mind), our relationship remains one of the most defining and definitive of my life.

But the time has come; I’m ready to move on.

Although I’ve dated others, I’ve always been a little afraid to be vulnerable and give myself so completely to another person again. I don’t want to get hurt, and I most certainly don’t want to get played.

But the more I take some time to think about the type of life I really want (the big, awesome, amazing one), the more I realize that I need to let go of all of my fears to get it.

With that said, this is why the Marley quote hit me in the heart.

I am not a perfect woman and I am not looking for a perfect man. What I want is simple: Someone who can make me laugh, challenge me to think, and inspire me to be better.

Is that too much to ask?


Are you afraid to be in love? What’s holding you back? Please leave a comment and share your thoughts. 

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